Most of us have our yearly family traditions during the holidays. Maybe your uncle always carves the turkey at Thanksgiving. Or perhaps you and your siblings decorate the Christmas tree each year. Whatever it may be, these traditions bring us all familiarity, comfort, and joy. However, when your loved one has dementia, family gatherings during this time of year can be a little more challenging. Helping loved ones with dementia during the holidays takes some effort. It will take extra time and planning. But keeping your loved one with dementia engaged and part of the family gathering is worth the extra work. After all, having the family together makes the holiday season so much more joyful.
Neurologist Dr. Suzanne Shindler says that most people with early or middle-stage dementia would enjoy being at a family gathering during the holidays. However, this Next Avenue article also states that those with dementia have different needs. Because of this, some careful consideration are in order. Try to consider things like what they enjoy and find happiness in. If your mother with dementia loves singing, maybe have a family sing-a-long after the big meal. Even sitting with them and reminiscing about previous holidays can be fun and engaging. Try bringing out a photo album. It can spark some conversation and laughs together. At the same time, knowing your loved one’s limitations is extremely important.
So what would be helpful to have in place before the gathering? One important thing to remember is that people with dementia often have increased confusion and behaviors in the evening. Therefore, consider having your meal at lunchtime or even a brunch. Another idea you may apply to the holidays is to have a designated quiet place. This would provide the person with dementia somewhere to have some downtime if needed.
Having a family member with dementia is challenging. Yet family gatherings during the holiday season can and should remain happy and fun for all. Remember to be patient and considerate of your loved one’s needs. In addition, have realistic expectations. The holidays may not be exactly how they were in the past. Plan in advance, but also plan for the unexpected. Finally, always remember to enjoy and cherish this time with your family.
Happy holidays from Arizona Elder Care.